self-doubt often hides behind a facade that implies supreme confidence

Why self-doubt is like a cancer on your life

Self-doubt resolves to be a problem in your life when being meek and humble is a facade.

Greg Twemlow
6 min readMay 27, 2020

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We’re not all endowed with an unlimited supply of chutzpah (khoot-spuh)

In fact, a sizable percentage of the population is quite the opposite. Feeling more comfortable to be less brazen, happy to be humble, even meek.

Which in and of itself is not a criticism, and to be sure, the world could not be populated solely by those with boundless chutzpah.

Self-doubt resolves to be a problem in your life when being meek and humble is actually a facade for self-doubt.

For that is surely a BIG problem.

It’s a problem insofar as achieving the ideal of reaching your potential. The last thing you need is for the handbrake to be on throughout your life’s journey.

Robin Sharma said, “Nothing will fill your heart with a greater sense of regret than lying on your deathbed knowing that you did not live your life and do your dreams.”

That is not a scenario you want to contemplate, although if you did, and if you found yourself lying on a bed, conscious that your last breath was somewhat imminent, how might you feel, “…knowing that you did not live your life and do your dreams”?

It’s likely you’d feel a tad deflated, you might even feel so deflated as to wish your last breath could somehow be hastened in order that the intense sadness of your realization would go away.

I know this is getting a bit intense, but that really can’t be avoided when the subject is, “why self-doubt is like a cancer on your life”.

It’s true that self-doubt is present in all of us to a degree. We all have those moments when self-doubt comes to the fore and gives us pause or it may even control us.

If you feel that emotion, the crippling sense that you are not worthy, that you may not succeed, that there’s a chance of failure, that you might be embarrassed, that there’s a potential for non-delivery, that you may not meet expectations, that the demanded standard is a big ask: that’s when you double-down and dig deep to find your true grit.

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Greg Twemlow

sharing what I’ve learned from 35 years as a citizen-of-the-world, parent, corporate executive, entrepreneur and since 2018, CEO of a registered charity